1 A Pool · Port Ellery · public

Platonic Life Partners

Three people are listed. A steward met each of them on a call before vouching for them, and each said yes. Anyone can read this Pool. Nobody can write to anyone in it until a steward has proposed an introduction and both people have said yes.

The charter

People looking for a committed partner who is not a romantic one: a shared household, shared decisions, each other’s emergency contact. Aromantic, asexual, widowed, single on purpose, and anyone else who wants this. A steward meets you before you are listed.

Stewards: Mireille Dufresne (primary) Signed in with OAuth Omar Qureshi Signed in with OAuth
Visibility: public. In our discovery file; anyone may read it §3.2.
Consent: vouching-required. A steward meets you and vouches first; you still say yes or no, and can leave in a minute §5.4.
Messages: Pool minimum sender verification oauth. Every member: vouched senders only, no cold messages §7.2.
Block lists: Kindling public list, and the Circular consortium list §7.3.
Status: active · updated 22 September 2026
The file: pools/platonic-partners.json

How the Pool is kept

A steward meets each person on a call before vouching for them.
A vouch is local to this Pool §4.4. It does not follow anyone into another Pool, ours or anyone else’s.
Nobody here has an auto-accept rule §5.5. Every listing was a decision.
People are shown in the order they said yes, never by a score.
The tags on each card are that person’s own words. We do not sort people into types.

Listed

Three people, in the order they said yes

Each card is what the person wrote on their own page, parsed when they said yes, with their verification level beside the name. Profile addresses are shown as text. Photos, if anyone has them, stay on their own pages §2.5.

1Said yes 12 April

Dana Whitcombe

Vouched for by the curator

dana-whitcombe.carrd.example · she/her

Aromantic, 38, a hospital pharmacist. Looking for a life partner who is not a romantic one: a household, shared decisions, each other’s emergency contact.

Their words for it: platonic-partnership, chosen-family

Met on a call, and vouched for by Omar Qureshi on 12 April. The vouch counts in this Pool only.

Messages: Vouched senders only, no first message until both have said yes.

2Said yes 3 May

Leo Marchetti

Vouched for by the curator

leo-marchetti.example · he/him

Widowed at 44. I miss having someone to run a life with more than I miss romance. Carpenter, early riser, good at taxes.

Their words for it: platonic-partnership, chosen-family

Met on a call, and vouched for by Omar Qureshi on 3 May. The vouch counts in this Pool only.

Messages: Vouched senders only, no first message until both have said yes.

3Said yes 21 June

Sam Adebayo

Vouched for by the curator

sam-adebayo.notion.example · they/them

Asexual, 41, a union electrician. Looking for a person to buy a house with and grow old next to.

Their words for it: platonic-partnership, chosen-family

Met on a call, and vouched for by Omar Qureshi on 21 June. The vouch counts in this Pool only.

Messages: Vouched senders only, no first message until both have said yes.

Ask the Pool

A plain question, answered from the file

Only people who said yes are in this Pool’s file, so only they can come up §5.1. Anton, who has an invitation waiting, is not in it. Answers appear in the order people said yes.

Leo MarchettiVouched for by the curator
Widowed at 44. I miss having someone to run a life with more than I miss romance. Carpenter, early riser, good at taxes.

The box answers; it does not introduce. Every member keeps no_cold_messages on, so to meet someone here you ask a steward, and the steward asks them. Nothing was sent. This is an example, answered in this page from the manifest.

Who can write to whom

Who can write to Leo, checked

Each row is checked in this page with Kindling’s rules, against Leo’s own preferences, this Pool’s OAuth minimum and its two block lists, the way a compliant client would §7.

Who writes	Result	Rule	Why
bulk-intros@relay.example	Blocked	Shared block list §7.3	On the Circular consortium block list, which this Pool subscribes to (spam).
Someone email verified, not in this Pool	Held back	Pool minimum §3.3	This Pool asks senders to be at least signed in with oauth.
Someone signed in with OAuth, vouched for by a steward in a different Pool	Held back	Vouched-only §7.2	Only people a curator has vouched for in this Pool can write.
Sam Adebayo, vouched here, before any introduction	Held back	No cold messages §7.2	No first message until both of you have said you would like to hear from each other.
Dana Whitcombe, after Omar introduced them and both said yes	Delivered	All rules met §7	Allowed by their rules: signed in with OAuth, vouched in this Pool, and both said yes.

The third row is the vouch staying local: a steward’s vouch in another Pool counts for nothing here. The last row is Omar’s introduction; play it yourself.

A member’s own screen

Leaving is one action

This is Dana’s own screen for the Pool. It shows her card, the stewards, and any introduction addressed to her, and one way out.

Leaving sends one withdrawal message, and the Pool must process it within sixty seconds §5.3. Her page stays hers. Anyone she has already been introduced to stays introduced. What privacy a Pool has comes from its visibility, never from kindling_noindex, which means “do not include me in any Pool at all” §2.7.

HearthholdDana’s screen

Platonic Life Partners

Kept by Mireille DufresneSigned in with OAuth

You are listed here. A steward writes to you when there is someone they think you should meet. Nobody can write to you first.

Your card: Dana WhitcombeVouched for by the curator