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3 A Pool · Port Ellery · public · fifty-five and over

Later-Life Housemates

For people fifty-five and over who would like to share a home. Anyone may say yes to being listed; no steward meeting is needed here. Three people are listed. When two or more of them decide to live together, the house agreement is the help we charge for, and nothing before it.

The charter

People fifty-five and over who would like to share a home: company in the kitchen, help with the stairs, someone who notices. Friendship, not romance, unless two people decide otherwise on their own.
Steward
Omar Qureshi Signed in with OAuth
Visibility
public. In our discovery file; anyone may read it §3.2.
Consent
universal-opt-in. Anyone may say yes to a link; nobody is listed without doing so §5.1.
Messages
No Pool minimum. Each person’s own rules apply, and they differ §7.2.
Block lists
Kindling public list, and the Circular consortium list §7.3.
Fifty-five and over
By each person’s own word. The protocol has no field for it, and nothing checks it.
The file
pools/later-life-housemates.json

How the Pool is kept

  • Omar keeps it. He does not vouch for anyone here, so everyone is listed at their own verification level.
  • People are shown in the order they said yes.
  • Friendship, not romance, unless two people decide otherwise on their own.
  • Nobody pays to be listed, to write to anyone, or to be introduced.

Listed

Walt, Rosalind and Evelyn

Each card is what the person wrote on their own page, parsed when they said yes, with their verification level beside the name.

1Said yes 3 August

Walt Kessler

Email verified

walt-kessler.example · he/him

Retired harbor master, 68. The house is too big and too quiet. I cook, I fix things, and I go to bed at nine.

Said yes to an email link. Nobody vouches in this Pool, so the card shows their own verification level.

Messages: Any verified sender, open to a first message.

2Said yes 11 August

Rosalind Achebe

Email verified

rosalind-achebe.carrd.example · she/her

Retired choir director, 71. Looking for housemates who like music in the kitchen and quiet after ten.

Said yes to an email link. Nobody vouches in this Pool, so the card shows their own verification level.

Messages: Any verified sender, open to a first message.

3Said yes 2 September

Evelyn Marsh

Email verified

evelyn-marsh.carrd.example/home · she/her

Retired schoolteacher, two grown sons who live far away. I would like to share a house with people who read at the table and do not mind a small sailboat in the driveway.

Said yes to an email link. Nobody vouches in this Pool, so the card shows their own verification level.

Messages: Vouched senders only, no first message until both have said yes.

Other Pools stay out of sight. People here may also be in other Pools, on our site or someone else’s, and some of those are unlisted. Nothing on this page, and nothing in this Pool’s file, says who or which, and we could not tell you if we wanted to: an unlisted Pool’s address travels only from its own curator §3.2 §3.5.

How it works here

How shared-home introductions work

  1. 1

    Say yes to be listed

    Omar sends a link to the address on your page. One click, and you are in the Pool. No meeting is needed to be listed here, and your page stays yours.

    §5.2

  2. 2

    Read the Pool, then write or ask

    Some people here take a first message from anyone verified; others only through an introduction from Omar. Their rules are on their card, and the page keeps to them.

    §7.2

  3. 3

    Meet somewhere ordinary

    Coffee, a walk along the harbor, then a visit to each other’s homes. Take your time. Nobody is waiting on a decision.

  4. 4

    Ask each other the unromantic questions

    Rent and bills. Who has which room. Guests, pets and quiet hours. The stairs. What happens when one of you needs more help than the other can give, and how anyone moves out. We have a list, and it is free.

  5. 5

    If you decide: a house agreement

    This is the paid help, and it comes after. See the panel beside this list.

    §1.3

Who can write to whom

Their own rules, checked

This Pool sets no minimum of its own, so each person’s rules decide. Walt and Rosalind take a first message from anyone verified. Evelyn’s page asks for vouched senders only, and no first message until both have said yes. Her rules came with her page, and nobody is vouched in this Pool, so for now nobody can write to her through it. If she changes her page, the Pool reads the change at its next re-parse §2.6.

Who writesResultRuleWhy
Walt writes to RosalindDeliveredVerified senders §7.1Allowed by their rules: Walt is email verified, and Rosalind takes a first message from any verified sender.
An unverified sender writes to RosalindHeld backIdentity gating §7.1Unverified senders are held back. Verify your email first.
Walt writes to EvelynHeld backVouched-only §7.2Only people a curator has vouched for in this Pool can write.
bulk-intros@relay.example writes to WaltBlockedShared block list §7.3On the Circular consortium block list, which this Pool subscribes to (spam).